I Didn’t Bounce Back after Pregnancy

Once you pop that baby out, there are a few words you start hearing very often, such as wake windows, leaking, gas trap, and among many others, BOUNCE BACK. It is defined as going back to who you were before the journey of those nine months began. But what does it really mean? <ul> <li>You go back to the body you had before baby</li> <li>You go back to your job like nothing has changed</li> <li>You go back to your relationships with the same rhythm</li> </ul> And so on and so forth. The reality though is far from the above. In fact, there is an actual term coined to talk about how far from the truth this is. Matrescence. The process of becoming a mother. And how it can potentially change everything. Bouncing back as a phrase itself is problematic. And if you ask me, not aspirational. <h2>Let’s talk about the latter first. BACK.</h2> I just created a human being. Why would I want to go back to who I was before this magical moment? This is not to say I didn’t like my life then or who I was even. But once you do something this fabulous, shouldn’t change be almost expected? I may even have been disappointed if nothing changed. My body, career, and relationships did not go back to their pre-pregnancy versions. Here’s how it changed for me. <h2>BODY:</h2> I was always blessed with skinny genes. I danced often, and I was fairly active in my lifestyle, and not completely reckless with my food choices. I was healthy and I looked good. If I had to label it, I was considered petite and delicate. A perception of both my body and personality to some extent. (the meaning of my name too signifies delicate). I never really had body issues per se. And so, going back to my old body could be tempting but surprisingly isn’t. <a href="https://medium.com/middle-pause/i-didnt-bounce-back-after-pregnancy-aac5a70e2b6a">Read More</a>