My beloved narcissist

In recent years, we have been witnessing an excessive use of terms related to pathological personality disorders diagnosed and used by individuals who have no expertise in the field, no degree in psychology or psychiatry. The constant need to label and control everything that has to do with us, everything that interacts with us, has reached manic levels. The most glaring example is what I would call the narcissistic phenomenon. I know people who have gone on dates, with negative outcomes, spending hours and hours of their (unbeknownst to them) precious time trying to analyze every single comma in the messages that the “narcissist” has sent them, before disappearing completely and leaving the poor victims hopelessly in love after a week of messages, a few likes, and one or two dinner together. There are well-defined traits that characterize a true narcissist, like an overestimation of their own abilities, a sense of grandiosity, and other characteristics that can only lead to a proper diagnosis by a specialist who carefully evaluates the case. Seeing each other twice, spending the night together, and then being rejected could not be the case. It’s certainly not a good way to handle a situation, not openly clarifying one’s intentions from the start. But sometimes, I believe that, as a person, you can start in one direction and find yourself in another. Of course, a degree of transparency should be maintained, but we can’t expect that from everyone. If we were to change our perspective, focus on ourselves, and believe in our own worth, perhaps we could avoid certain dynamics. One madness that I’ve noticed many commit is being convinced that we absolutely know what the other person is thinking and why this person acted in a certain way. Spoiler: you will never know unless you ask this person. And, even if the person lied, remember that you cannot read the minds of others; it’s not possible, and you don’t have superpower. Another folly is setting extremely high expectations and not conducting a realistic reality check. The societal pressure for us to be married and always happy (yes, even in 2023) can be unbearable for some. So, they no longer think about their own needs, they no longer work on their personal well-being, but they prefer to behave as they should behave. And so, they end up desperately searching for what will make them on par with the rest of the world before it’s too late. <a href="https://medium.com/@marviola761/my-beloved-narcissist-8cb98c182e37">Click Here</a>