Why I let people believe I want a baby daddy

In a world where traditional family ideals often cast a long shadow, I’ve chosen to walk a path less traveled. I’ve allowed people to believe I have “baby daddy issues,” not because it’s the Truth, but because it’s easier, people enjoy and believe predictable stereotypes, and it means I can see who is a waste of my time & stay away from by who believes it. It saves me the energy of explaining my situation with my beautiful little family and the lack of external resources. They missed out on us, is my stance. As a young mother who’s both single and an orphan, I decided to shut the door on dating years ago. What followed was a barrage of demoralizing questions and statements from well-intentioned friends, strangers, and even teachers. “Are they your sisters? Can I ask how old you are? You just need a man. Why would you date her; she has kids, you’ll never be put first. What about a father figure? We will never have a moment of income child-free if I date you.” These were some of the judgments I faced. People, often uninvited, took credit for my parenting. Friends, roommates, and strangers inserted themselves where they weren’t wanted or needed. It seemed like everyone had an opinion on my parenting style, and single people, in particular, could be the most judgmental, as if they thought it was a competitive sport. But let me tell you, it’s not a competition. The best parenting advice I ever received came from a compassionate woman after my mother’s funeral. On that Christmas Eve, as my Russian landlord persistently complained about trivial matters, she stepped in. She told me, “Remember one thing: roof, food, and love. You provide these at a minimum, and you’re doing a great job as a parent.” Those words have stayed with me ever since. Over the years I’ve found myself caught in the whirlwind of “mom culture” and the isolation it can bring. As a mother, it’s easy to get swept up in the world of playdates, Pinterest-perfect crafts, and the constant comparison of parenting styles. Yet, amid the desire to provide the best for my children, unlike other mothers I deeply understand isolation <a href="https://medium.com/@b.ursula.gore/why-i-let-people-believe-i-want-a-baby-daddy-53b90689255b">Read More</a>