Nothing pisses me off more than when someone says, “I’m just not attracted to Asian men.” I’ve heard these words come out of seemingly bright and well-intentioned women’s mouths — women of all ethnicities, including Asian — and in the Bay Area, where over one-third of the population is Asian, no less. When I point out that it’s discriminatory — no, racist — to exclude an entire race from your dating preferences, they shrug as if it’s something that just can’t be helped.
But it’s complicated. Especially because I’m an Asian woman who happens to be dating a white guy.