The Most Valuable Thing I Learned in University Wasn’t in a Classroom
<p>“I think I want to change my major,” my friend’s child, in her first year at university, tells her.</p>
<p>I’m not sure how it happened, but I’m at the point where my friends’ kids are going off to college.</p>
<p>Some of them are struggling with the transition, which is understandable. At 18, you feel like a mature adult. Now, decades later, I realize how young that actually is.</p>
<p>I remember heading off to university. I was nervous, sure, but mainly excited. A good part of the reason I chose my school is how far it was from my hometown. Eight hours drive, far enough that it wasn’t reasonable for me to go home except for holidays.</p>
<p>I’d never lived anywhere else, but I still knew my home wasn’t a good place to be.</p>
<p>Unlike my friends’ kids, I wasn’t going to my mom with my problems. I had a challenging roommate who, in hindsight, was badly in need of mental health support. It was a daily struggle to live with her neediness, but Mom was the last place I’d go for advice of any kind. You learn that quickly when every vulnerability is weaponized.</p>
<p>Had I explained how my roommate’s breakdowns were affecting me, she’d have found a way to make it my fault. I knew this from hard experience. No matter what the situation, in her eyes I was to blame.</p>
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