The Most Valuable Thing I Learned in University Wasn’t in a Classroom

<p>&ldquo;I think I want to change my major,&rdquo; my friend&rsquo;s child, in her first year at university, tells her.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m not sure how it happened, but I&rsquo;m at the point where my friends&rsquo; kids are going off to college.</p> <p>Some of them are struggling with the transition, which is understandable. At 18, you feel like a mature adult. Now, decades later, I realize how young that actually is.</p> <p>I remember heading off to university. I was nervous, sure, but mainly excited. A good part of the reason I chose my school is how far it was from my hometown. Eight hours drive, far enough that it wasn&rsquo;t reasonable for me to go home except for holidays.</p> <p>I&rsquo;d never lived anywhere else, but I still knew my home wasn&rsquo;t a good place to be.</p> <p>Unlike my friends&rsquo; kids, I wasn&rsquo;t going to my mom with my problems. I had a challenging roommate who, in hindsight, was badly in need of mental health support. It was a daily struggle to live with her neediness, but Mom was the last place I&rsquo;d go for advice of any kind. You learn that quickly when every vulnerability is weaponized.</p> <p>Had I explained how my roommate&rsquo;s breakdowns were affecting me, she&rsquo;d have found a way to make it my fault. I knew this from hard experience. No matter what the situation, in her eyes I was to blame.</p> <p><a href="https://medium.com/the-narrative-arc/the-most-valuable-thing-i-learned-in-university-wasnt-in-a-classroom-cc84a18f35c4">Visit Now</a></p>