Now or Never

“I don’t want to settle down. I don’t want to do all those things. That’s usually a point of tension. People’s points of mind don’t tend to line up ever. Especially when you’re young. People’s ideas change in 10 years. The idea that people get together and they’re with someone from their 20s, and it’s a happy marriage is a sham. The only reason we have a higher divorce range now is purely because it’s tied to the stigma that was tied to divorce. People stayed in companionable silences for their entire lives. A lot of people in those happy marriages, a lot of them are just kind of best friends. Romantically being attracted to someone is less important as you grow older. When I thought about it, I realized if I was going to work Monday-Friday 9–5 in a f*cking corporate job, it was a really hard way to have a social life. The social life I did have was too close to what I did have in Uni which was too much drinking. Melbourne was a place where I established friends, kind of a group of people when I moved here. It was much more of an easy cultural socialization after work and everything. The city being a lot more sprawling, a lot bigger, meant that you had places like your adjacent suburbs. Suburbs you can live in, you can invite people into, and you have things you can show them. As opposed to Brisbane it was condensed. You ended up in the same areas, doing the same things, drinking too much. And with that, finding someone you want to make happy in the right way is a lot easier here. That’s the most important thing. I’d rather find that happiness in a city where I can explore, and spread out, and own something, rather than be cramped. At this point in my life too, it’s now or never” <a href="https://medium.com/blue-hens-down-unda/now-or-never-e9ba87cbf101">Visit Now</a>