Tell Me How You Love and I all Show You Who You Are
<p>Doyou know how you love?</p>
<p>When I work with people in therapy, this question is often the foundation for our work — especially if they’ve been hurt.</p>
<p>When you’ve been through a breakup, it’s natural to want to unpack what led to it, and the psychology of the person you’re with. <em>Were they avoidant? Insecurely attached? Or was I in bed with a Narcissist?</em></p>
<p>The answers to those questions are often hard to pin down. What is easier — and more productive — is to delve into who you are as a partner. The ways in which you approach and “do” love.</p>
<p>For my clients I use a 7-point model to give them a starting point for their self-analysis- and some simple clues as to who they are in love.</p>
<p>I call them the seven pillars of love.</p>
<p>Here’s a sneak peek.</p>
<h1>Who are you in love?</h1>
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<p>“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.” ― Lao Tzu</p>
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<h2>How you trust</h2>
<p>Trust is first on the list for a reason — it’s the bright yellow signpost to the way we love. Thing is, though, everyone thinks trust is about being able to trust your partner. Of course that’s important but that’s only half of it — the half you can’t control. In the end, none of us can monitor our partners 24/7. And why would we want to?</p>
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