Someone Insisted There’s No Way I Could’ve Been Lonely in My Marriage

<blockquote> <p>&ldquo;There&rsquo;s no way someone can be lonely in a marriage,&rdquo; she says.</p> </blockquote> <p>I can&rsquo;t believe these words.</p> <p><strong>They infuriate me.</strong></p> <p>I don&rsquo;t respond to this ignorantly misguided comment.</p> <p>It may be one of the most appalling remarks I&rsquo;ve heard during my divorce and years as a relationship and divorce columnist. Fortunately, I didn&rsquo;t know this woman so I ignored the absurd opinion.</p> <p><strong>I remember the moment I confessed my desperate isolation.</strong></p> <blockquote> <p>&ldquo;I&rsquo;m so lonely,&rdquo; I say to my sister.</p> <p>&ldquo;Colleen,&rdquo; she says. &ldquo;I&rsquo;m so sorry &mdash; it&rsquo;s terrible that you feel lonely. I can&rsquo;t imagine how you feel because I never felt lonely during my marriage. It&rsquo;s awful.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote> <p>I limped along in my marriage for a long time after that.</p> <p>Just because you live with someone doesn&rsquo;t mean you are either emotionally or physically connected to them. It doesn&rsquo;t mean there is an intimacy between you.</p> <p>I may not have set that misguided woman straight.</p> <p><strong>But I will set the record straight.</strong></p> <p><a href="https://medium.com/the-virago/someone-insisted-theres-no-way-i-could-ve-been-lonely-in-my-marriage-c130caa17328">Visit Now</a></p>