Someone Insisted There’s No Way I Could’ve Been Lonely in My Marriage
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<p>“There’s no way someone can be lonely in a marriage,” she says.</p>
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<p>I can’t believe these words.</p>
<p><strong>They infuriate me.</strong></p>
<p>I don’t respond to this ignorantly misguided comment.</p>
<p>It may be one of the most appalling remarks I’ve heard during my divorce and years as a relationship and divorce columnist. Fortunately, I didn’t know this woman so I ignored the absurd opinion.</p>
<p><strong>I remember the moment I confessed my desperate isolation.</strong></p>
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<p>“I’m so lonely,” I say to my sister.</p>
<p>“Colleen,” she says. “I’m so sorry — it’s terrible that you feel lonely. I can’t imagine how you feel because I never felt lonely during my marriage. It’s awful.”</p>
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<p>I limped along in my marriage for a long time after that.</p>
<p>Just because you live with someone doesn’t mean you are either emotionally or physically connected to them. It doesn’t mean there is an intimacy between you.</p>
<p>I may not have set that misguided woman straight.</p>
<p><strong>But I will set the record straight.</strong></p>
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