10 Things Nobody Told You About “Forever” Relationships

Been with your partner a long time? Is it still working for you? How about for them? As a psychologist, I work with a lot of people in long-term relationships. Even if they don’t come to therapy to address relationship problems, we’ll talk about them. Because you can tell a lot about someone’s mental and emotional state from their intimate relationships. They are such a lynch pin in our life satisfaction and — er — misery. Trouble is, relationships take a hammering over time. Time and stress and hormones and illness and kids and every other piece of crap life can come up with take their toll on even sturdy partnerships. Those who make it, will tell you the truth — being with someone for a long time is a bumpy ride. Fun and comforting if you’re lucky (and make an effort) — but still bumpy. There are many, many things nobody tells you way back when you are all starry-eyed about the one you’re with. But, even if they did, I doubt we’d hear them. Here are 10 of the best. <h2>1. One of you will want more sex than the other.</h2> When I first started out as a psychologist, I recall a young man asking me how many times a week should he and his girlfriend be having sex. They’d been together for a year or so, her interest had waned and he wanted me to put a number on it. I probably dodged the question with a non-committal “no such thing as a sex quota” answer but he’d raised a problem I’d come up against over and over in the years to follow. Sexual discrepancy is a thing. It’s right up there with money and kids as one of the most common reasons couples fight. <a href="https://medium.com/on-the-couch/10-things-nobody-told-you-about-forever-relationships-606d7d6264e1">Visit Now</a>