The Best Relationship Tip I’ve Heard This Year — Maybe Ever

<p>Two young people were planning to marry.</p> <p>Before they made it official they spent an evening talking over all the worst times in their relationship.</p> <p>They&rsquo;d been through lot. Family dramas. Friends&rsquo; suicides. Job losses. Long shifts of unemployment. Moving towns. Moving countries. Financial struggles. Everything about Covid. And more.</p> <p>When you ran it all together it made a pretty dark reading list. It had brought their most difficult feelings to the surface. But they didn&rsquo;t see it that way.</p> <p>&ldquo;It reminded us that we are strong &mdash; stronger together,&rdquo; one of them said. &ldquo;That we can cope, no matter what happens.&rdquo;</p> <blockquote> <p>&ldquo;To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow &mdash; this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.&rdquo; &mdash; Elizabeth Gilbert</p> </blockquote> <h1>Building a strong relationship</h1> <p>I couldn&rsquo;t fault their reasoning. It was gold.</p> <p>Most people want to build resilience. They pay therapists and coaches &mdash; and charlatans too &mdash; for psychological tools to help them.</p> <p>Sure, there are plenty of tools that can shore up your reserves, make you feel emotionally fitter and stronger for whatever the world is going to fling at you (and it will do some serious flinging, trust me).</p> <p>But there are an awful lot of things you can do for yourself. And top of the list is to remind yourself that you are still here &mdash; and why and how you have come to this place.</p> <p><a href="https://medium.com/on-the-couch/the-best-relationship-tip-ive-heard-this-year-maybe-ever-c16a8eaec1d3"><strong>Read More</strong></a></p>
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