I’m Building a Habit of Quiet Self-Compassion And It’s Changing My Life

The realisation that I was my own worst enemy happened on the most ordinary of days. I turned out of work and began my 50-minute commute home. Before that, I’d never really questioned the voice in my head. It seems weird to even mention it out loud. I hope you’ren’t thinking I’ve lost it. We all talk to ourselves… don’t we?! That voice in my head I’d always assumed wanted the best for me. I’d consulted it on a daily basis. It was my co-pilot. But for the first time, in well, ever, I looked at it a little differently. As it told me all the things I did wrong that day, how I looked stupid in that meeting, and how I probably was doomed in my career (and life) I stopped for a second. And ask a question that would change things for me: does this voice serve me? <h1>Everything is happening in your head</h1> I’ll be honest, I always thought self-talk was a load of nonsense. I thought self-kindness and being on your own side was what people said just to say something. If anyone said ‘be kind to yourself’ I would cringe. I’d nod and walk away thinking, jeez, remind me not to talk to them again. I was judgemental. I thought it was a load of nonsense. I was wrong. That internal voice, that one that chimes in any time anything happens, any time you’re thinking about what’s going on in the world and your next move, changing that voice has changed my life. <a href="https://medium.com/mind-cafe/im-building-a-habit-of-quiet-self-compassion-and-it-s-changing-my-life-900b4de5803f">Website</a>