If You Support My Abuser, You Are Not A Good Advocate For Survivors of Sexual Violence
<p>Dear Ashton and Mila,</p>
<p>Why do so many celebrities and their friends publicly vouch for the character of convicted sex offenders?</p>
<p>I’m a survivor of <em>multiple</em> instances of sexual violence, dating back to childhood. In spite of this, I’ve seen justice precisely <em>one</em> time. It was a small glimmer, but an impactful one nonetheless. It also came about <em>decades</em> after the first time someone put me in a sexual situation I had not consented to.</p>
<p>A few years ago I went on a date with an upstanding member of my local theatre community and when I tried to say goodbye with a polite hug, he pinned me against my car and assaulted me. While I vented about the incident to friends, I did not initially tell anyone who perpetrated it. And curiously, no one asked.</p>
<p>I didn’t bring this one to the police. I would have been happy to speak with them, but I felt the incident would not be something they deemed worthy of their time.</p>
<p>There was nothing to be done.</p>
<p>But in an attempt to work some of my feelings out, I wrote an essay about the experience and a friend who came upon it suggested that I report the assault to the newly formed conduct committee of our local theatre festival.</p>
<p>I wanted to come forward, but I was nervous — especially considering the positive reputation of the person who had assaulted me. Not only was he well-known and liked, but he was an employee of the festival.</p>
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