How to Stop Holding Your Ground When It’s Crumbling Beneath You

I was always stubborn about the worst possible things. It’s strange to think about now. Instead of holding onto my values and desires, I held onto ideas and to men who were never truly holding onto me. The ground was crumbling beneath me, and I simply refused to yield — all the while, yielding was inevitable. I woke up this morning thinking about my stubborn nature and how it developed into a stumbling block when paired with trauma. I can see the ways it hurt me. I can see the loyalty I once showed to employers who saw me as expendable — and later, to the men I partnered who saw me in much the same way. Instead of developing loyalty to myself, I pledged my allegiance to everyone else in hopes that someone else’s love would make me feel worthy. The last year of shadow work has shifted my mindset into accountability. I can own the mistakes I’ve made. Today, I woke up thinking that the worst of them comes from the best of me. My fierce love and loyalty can be my strongest asset — and my greatest downfall. This is true of most of us. We instinctively hold on when we should let go. We use the maladaptive coping skills that once insured our survival long after they’re needed, often leading to our destruction. There comes a point when we realize it’s time to stop and to learn a new way of being. <a href="https://betterhumans.pub/how-to-stop-holding-your-ground-when-its-crumbling-beneath-you-415aa79fdf11">Click Here</a>