How Idealization Affects Clarity & Choice of Partner

Humans are hardwired for connection. Yet, in the last decade, it has become more and more common to hear that someone got “discarded”, or “ghosted” or is being “breadcrumbed’ and strung along in what they hoped was a legitimate connection. It’s just as common hearing that the same person who discarded one relationship has immediately jumped into another one without giving themselves time to grow, and without giving their bed time to cool off. At the core of these kinds of patterns are childhood traumas and early conditioning which can create developmental and emotional gaps based on our unmet needs to feel safe, valued, wanted, and loved. These holes in our basic needs are what can shadow our ability to love from a place of authentic connection. And, they’re what predispose a person to falling hook, line, and sinker for idealization. First, there’s a distinction between infatuation and idealization. Both can feel very intense. It’s common to experience infatuation at the start of a new relationship. If the relationship is based on healthy connection, we will experience a passionate, and intense feeling with that person who occupies our thoughts, feelings, and time. <a href="https://medium.com/invisible-illness/how-idealization-affects-clarity-choice-of-partner-82e3172901c">Read More</a>