How Hard Is It To Forgive & Forget?

I didn’t plan to write today, but something is on my mind. Maybe sharing with you will help. Maybe not. I’ll write either way and hope it makes sense after reading it in two days. How hard is it to forgive and forget? That was the question that rocked my mind after service on Sunday. My pastor had just finished preaching, and as usual, I took notes for future reference and study. Everything was fine until our lead pastor reiterated the need to forgive. I laughed it off at first because I don’t think I have any ex that has possibly hurt me to the point of holding a grudge against them. I mean, the message focused on heartbreaks. However, my whole world paused when a chapter I had closed long ago reopened. My pastor had gone beyond exes. Flashes of moments I thought I would never remember seemed more real than ever. I felt every single emotion in that moment. I fought the tears that welled up in my eyes. Unfortunately, a friend broke my defence with heartwarming words that made way for a salty flood(now I wish I recorded it). I could swear that I had gone past whatever happened. I learnt to be deliberate about forgiving people by countering every negative emotion towards them with something positive. I would mention people’s names and say, “I forgive and bless you from my heart”. I thought this was all gone. Why did it resurface? Did I not forgive for real? Was there something I held on to? <a href="https://medium.com/@slimzyjackson/do-you-forgive-and-forget-9b4338604d4c">Read More</a>