4 Steps to an Open 1–1 Conversation

<p><em>Each week I share a quick management hack you can implement right away.</em></p> <p>We&rsquo;ve all had those one-to-ones where unsaid thoughts and feelings hang about like a bad smell. Managers can feel powerless to do anything about it. Here&rsquo;s a 4-step hack to turn things around:</p> <p><strong>Safe Space &mdash; make it private.</strong><br /> If the conversation has the potential to include sensitive topics, err on the safe side: choose somewhere you won&rsquo;t be overheard so the individual can express themselves freely.</p> <p>Beware: it&rsquo;s not as simple as diving into the nearest meeting room. A large, empty room intimidates and may set a negative tone for the meeting &mdash; choose an appropriate setting.</p> <p><strong>Show Vulnerability.</strong><br /> If you&rsquo;re guarded and asking someone else to share, they won&rsquo;t. Sometimes showing our own vulnerability is what&rsquo;s needed to make others feel safe to open up.</p> <p>Beware: strike a balance between vulnerable sharing and actionable advice. The best leaders are those who combine vulnerability with a clear path forward.</p> <p><strong>Sensitive Questioning.</strong><br /> Use open &ldquo;how&rdquo; questions, such as &ldquo;how are things at home?&rdquo;</p> <p>Keep your questioning broad and err on the side of caution. Specific questions are jarring and unnecessary. Specifics will come when the individual is ready.</p> <p>Beware: don&rsquo;t assert your opinion: &ldquo;If it&rsquo;s not work that&rsquo;s getting you down, there must be something going on at home?&rdquo; &mdash; this comes across as judgemental and does not encourage open sharing.</p> <p><a href="https://medium.com/read-the-room/4-steps-to-an-open-1-1-conversation-bb7ef4e170f"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p>