An Autistic Social Butterfly’s Guide to Making Friends

All of this slowly began to change in my late 20s, after I learned I was Autistic and began researching <a href="https://devonprice.medium.com/wentworth-miller-mental-health-stigma-and-masked-autism-fc6642513fbc" rel="noopener">masked Autism</a>. I came to understand that I didn’t dislike people as a matter of course, I just couldn’t handle unexpected plans, or erratic noise, and was not adept at following social scripts and rules of politeness that did not make sense to me. All this time, I had been frosty to people in order to hide my vulnerability and my disability, not because I hated people. I started to consider that maybe I wasn’t innately broken and unlovable, I just hadn’t been seen and appreciated for the person I really was. It was then that I began making a dedicated effort to connect with people as my genuine self. I started visiting a lot of different social groups and clubs, and testing out many new hobbies. I began dressing and moving in a way that felt less restrictive and false, and soon I realized I was transgender as well. The more I expanded my social horizons and loosened the restrictions I had been putting on myself, the easier making new friends became. It took years of work and practice, with many stumbles, but I slowly developed the social skills necessary to form real bonds with people I actually liked, and enough self-respect to… <a href="https://medium.com/autistic-advice/an-autistic-social-butterflys-guide-to-making-friends-40bf4f9377f">Click Here</a>