I’m Happily Married, Yet I Still See How Marriage Is a Scam

Even though my parents had a traditional marriage, my mother never romanticized being a stay-at-home parent. She told me, in fact, to do the opposite. “Never depend on a man,” she told me multiple times. “Get educated. Get a job.” So I did. I got a Bachelor’s degree and then a Master’s. I worked. And then I got married for the first time. <h1>Becoming a Married Single Mother</h1> What I didn’t know at the time was that just by marrying a man, I had significantly improved HIS life and career outlook while hurting mine. While he was likely to give me an extra seven hours of housework per week, I was likely to save him an hour. While he was likely to make 10–40% more money, my chances of a successful career plummeted. While he could dedicate time to building his career in his 30s, my chances of doing so were interrupted because we had children. I went on maternity leave, and then once returning to work, I continued to be our children’s primary parent. Once our children were born, I didn’t have the option to spend long hours at work grinding. I had to leave promptly at 4:30 to pick up our children from daycare, and then spend the rest of the evening on my second job: taking care of them and our home. <a href="https://medium.com/better-humans/im-happily-married-yet-i-still-see-how-marriage-is-a-scam-dead2e6aa4ae">Read More</a>