Here’s Why Affairs Are So Common, According to Psychology

Nobody wants to be a cheater, but surprisingly many are. And although nobody thinks highly of adulterers, affairs are still a thing. This had me thinking. A study <a href="https://www.austin-institute.org/research" rel="noopener ugc nofollow" target="_blank">by the Austin Institute</a> found that infidelity accounted for about 37 percent of divorces in the U.S. Another estimate found that over 40% of married couples grapple with <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-infidelity-5409257" rel="noopener ugc nofollow" target="_blank">infidelity</a> issues. If everybody has affairs, then there must be a psychological explanation for that. People cheat all the time — what is it you get out of an affair? Talking about affairs is highly sensitive. We all have come in touch with infidelity and more people than we’d like to think actually had affairs before. Some might still have an ongoing affair. We never fully know a person, right? All I can say is that to me, being unfaithful has a lot to do with seeking something outside of an existing relationship. To me, it’s a way to avoid conflict and have the <a href="https://medium.com/the-secret-society/once-a-cheater-always-a-cheater-ef23fcdeca20" rel="noopener">thrill of something new</a> without any strings attached. Maybe it’s the excitement of being intimate with someone outside of an existing relationship that makes <a href="https://medium.com/the-secret-society/reasons-why-affairs-are-addictive-5a30b1b2e7a6" rel="noopener">affairs so addictive</a>. <h1>Having an affair is like having a flame addiction.</h1> Relationship researcher <a href="https://brainworldmagazine.com/flame-addiction-neuroscience-infidelity/" rel="noopener ugc nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Haltzmann</a> found that being unfaithful can become addictive. He uses the term “flame addiction” to describe how individuals are attracted to having <a href="https://www.press.jhu.edu/books/title/10747/secrets-surviving-infidelity" rel="noopener ugc nofollow" target="_blank">extramarital contact</a> despite all the drawbacks that come with cheating. For some, once they have tasted the thrill of an extramarital affair, they want to experience it again. There is a neurological reason for this. <a href="https://medium.com/the-secret-society/heres-why-affairs-are-so-common-according-to-psychology-d057bc65bea">Visit Now</a>