Things in Common and Attraction, Don’t Mean You’re Compatible
<p>There are so many traps and levels of confusion with early relationality and courtship. Walking through Times Square discussing a current dating dilemma my buddy said to me, “just because you have things in common and are attracted to someone, does not mean that you are compatible”. This statement jolted me because I had been, like many, conflating multiple concepts, and in doing so not allowing myself to see incompatibility.</p>
<p>Early relational excitement often allows for the confusion around partner assessment. That’s a hyper clinical perspective, but that’s essentially what dating is about- figuring out what happens when two autonomous people bond and attach. True attachment is an actual wiring of nervous systems, separated only by skin. It’s a co-creation and one can never tell from the outside what will occur once people begin relating and attaching.</p>
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