Things in Common and Attraction, Don’t Mean You’re Compatible

<p>There are so many traps and levels of confusion with early relationality and courtship. Walking through Times Square discussing a current dating dilemma my buddy said to me, &ldquo;just because you have things in common and are attracted to someone, does not mean that you are compatible&rdquo;. This statement jolted me because I had been, like many, conflating multiple concepts, and in doing so not allowing myself to see incompatibility.</p> <p>Early relational excitement often allows for the confusion around partner assessment. That&rsquo;s a hyper clinical perspective, but that&rsquo;s essentially what dating is about- figuring out what happens when two autonomous people bond and attach. True attachment is an actual wiring of nervous systems, separated only by skin. It&rsquo;s a co-creation and one can never tell from the outside what will occur once people begin relating and attaching.</p> <p><a href="https://medium.com/@ChrisDonaghue/things-in-common-and-attraction-dont-mean-you-re-compatible-9af9f652a80a"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p>